Wednesday, August 8, 2012

a lovely reminder ...



I found this on Pinerest today & it couldn't be more true. Every blurb explains Aiden too a tee - especially the one about whether he's been good or not (LOL).

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

rough nights = zombie me

I must sleep when Sadie does.
I must sleep when Sadie does.
I must sleep when Sadie does.

... but there's so much to do!, also - if I did, I would probably never see Ryan . But then if I don't, I'm a zombie. This is turning out to be a loose / loose situation ...

The waking up for the day part is definitely the toughest for me. Especially because typically Ryan is out to work by 10am and back home, no earlier than 10pm. Once a week he starts at 2pm and another day he gets off at 6pm. Those days tend to be my favourites. I haven't taken a nap during the day because Aiden has stopped napping. I can't sleep while he's awake! My guilty conscious will consume me. Plus that's my time with my A ;)

I haven't mentioned that we got a new toy. Semi-splurge item but I really felt like with two kiddies, we needed to have more than just an iPhone camera (even though it gets the job done!). With the help of my best cousin Miguel, we purchase the Olympus E-PM1 and I instantly fell in love. Mind you, I'm using it in auto mode and haven't really got the chance to play around with all the settings, but overall I'm content. The fact that we're able to get dslr quality without a bulk camera body is amazing. Like I need to be carrying out more weight in S's diaper bag - this camera is tres bien.

Look some quick shots of A in his bedroom this weekend.










This boy is my heart.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

We Survived the First Month!

Sadie was officially 1 month on August 2nd & we've been doing pretty well (did I just jinx it?).

A couple of days after Sadie's birth, Ryan's aunt passed away. She had a stroke and a heart attack late June, was in the hospital for about 2 weeks and fully recovered. She was even sent home. While at home, she suffered another heart attack and was hospitalized again. She then went into a coma that she never woke up from ... & even if / when she did, the doctors deemed her to be in a vegetative state. My heart broke completely for her husband and three kids. So while feeling the joy of having a fresh newborn, our families were grieving the death of a loved one ... it was an emotional week.

It feels like time is flying, but at the same time I can't believe that Sadie has only been around for a month! She's filling out nicely, but still such a sweet little girly girl.

Miss Sadie Baby!


At one month ...
-You're wearing size 1 diapers
-You still love a good swaddle at night time
-You're sleeping a 4 hour stretch at night! 
-Tummy time isn't your favourite, but you love being on Daddy's chest - always trying to hold your head up
-Daddy is also the best at "helping you poop and getting rid of your gas" 
-You ooh and ahh, and love to hear stories - especially from Kuya Aiden
-You adore bath time
-I am convinced that Coldplay soothes you
-Your hair still looks silly

Here's what else we've been up to:

Sleeping
-We're getting some! and for the most part, it feels like we're getting more than what we got with A (again, will the sleep now go away because I said something out loud - please no!). Sadie's been sleeping 3-4 hour stretches at night and once even a 5 hour stretch! I startled myself completely when this happened! Typically, our last feed is around 10:00pm. She's up again at 2:00am for a feed and will go back to sleep. Up again at 6:00am for a feed and will go back to sleep. Then up around 8:30-9:00am, again - to feed. Not too shabby, I'll take it!

Breastfeeding
Challenging, to say the least - refer to my last post for more details. But since then, we went to the breastfeeding clinic and fed with a lactation specialist. Funny how lovely things work out there (Ryan even commented how I was smiling and laughing during the nursing session, lol) and when we get home, the basic principles are thrown out the window! The afternoon after our appointment at the clinic, I felt defeated and discouraged. I called to book another appointment for the very next day - unfortunately (or fortunately) they were booked completely (which I guess makes me feel better, because it goes to show that other mamas are having challenges too!). I settled for an appointment the day after. This forced us to practice. Which is maybe, exactly what we needed. I had a bit more confidence in myself (and the fact that I had a conversation with my mom who told me, you will get it - you did with Aiden). I tried not to stress about a crappy latch and wouldn't be afraid to start over. We're not masters of the whole thing, yet - but I'm hopeful.

As for the frequency of feedings, they're still sporadic. Some days it feels like we're on a "schedule", nursing every 2-3 hours, other days - not so much. I do, however, nurse on demand - so really, I let Sadie lead this one. For 3 night this week, it felt like I was glued to my "nursing chair" from 6:00-10:00pm, nursing every hour! Potential growth spurt? ... A schedule would be nice, but I'm OK with the way things are right now, just want to make sure she's happy, heathy and thriving!

WeightYour one month check up is tomorrow, so your latest weigh in was at the breastfeeding clinic just one day shy of one month. You weighed in at a whopping 8 pounds! Yay! Validates that we're doing something right! **edit: Dr. Wong was really surprised to see how chubby you were (compared to when we saw her last), you're now 8 pounds and 9 ounces!

Challenges
... one night, I was shifting through Aiden's baby photos and was feeling more than nostalgic. Ryan asked me whether I missed the days when it was just A. I choked. I didn't even know how to answer. Because the truth of the matter was, I did. I missed it, beyond words. And I almost felt as though I took that time for granted. And now that I'm being pulled in a million and one directions, I'm wishing that I could tend to my A - the way I used to. I miss my time with him. I do.

And for a million reasons, I feel crappy about this. For obvious reasons, Sadie relies on me tenfold. So as majority of my attention goes to her ... I have to remind myself that things will get better, easier. And that Aiden is learning to adjust too. His independence is soaring.

Me: Post-Partum
I am doing pretty good. The lochia has slowed down and nearly diminished. Compared to last time, the healing has been much faster. My 6 week post-partum appointment will be the week of the 13th and hopefully everything is a-okay! & because my inner motto has really been "this too, shall pass - things will only get better from this point on", I'm really trying to find the positive in all the situations / challenges wer'e finding ourselves in now that we have two kids (two freaking kids - wow).

So, overall - not only has it been a surreal month (my goodness we have a son and a daughter!), it's been well, fulfilling. Though Aiden and I are starting to have a bit of cabin fever (sporadic bfeedingness), we're doing pretty fantastic.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

I make milk ...

What's your superpower? ...

Breastfeeding is hard. 
I think that it's the most under-rated, least talked about topic when it comes to pregnancy and labour. & to be honest, it's definitely not easier the second time around.

With Aiden, I didn't even know that I wanted to breastfeed. The early days were a huge blur. I can remember crying (lots) in the wee hours of the morning because we just weren't getting it. Learning to breastfeed truly tested my patience. But with time, practice & patience - it was a wonderful experience, & I was able to nurse until Aiden was 1 years old.

With Sadie (here comes the comparison again), just when I feel like we've finally got the hang of things, an improper latch brings me back to square one. It's frustrating, it's painful and it's tough. But again, like most things during the "newborn phase" -it's a learning experience, we will get better & the rough patches will pass. I have to believe this - for my sanity's sake!

But I am determined to make this work for us.
I stumbled across this this morning ... & it couldn't be more bang on:

Don’t stress too much about achieving the perfect latch or breastfeeding position. 
If it works for you and baby then it’s perfect for you guys! It will take time for you and baby to figure out a way that is comfortable for you both, it’s a learned skill.

I also stumbled across this, which I thought it was interesting and a nice reminder of the benefits of breastfeeding.



So in theory, we must ... try, try & try again.
The sound of Sadie sucking and swallowing the goodness and the look of content on her face after a full feeding ... makes it all worth it. Giving up is really not an option. So, as Ryan would say - hang in there tiger - you can do this.


& lastly - because I've haven't lost my sense of humour ... lol.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

At 9:35pm ...

both my babies were asleep!
I grabbed a bowl of cherries and plopped myself in front of the TV - The Last Song was on the W network. Ah, a moment to myself :)

At 9:58pm, I found this ...



Well that was short lived, lol.